Expectations!!

I doubt if anybody has an answer to it… for the simple reason that the expectations change with time, circumstances, situations, people…. But we do not shy away from working towards achieving those expectations, fulfilling the desires, praying for the heavenly support to achieve those goals. We look at others to create a benchmark to look at what all they have and we do not have. Invariably we tend to overlook the details of the other’s achievements – how much effort, time, sweat has gone into achieving that goal, what were the hurdles they faced, and so on… Why does that happen? Is it because of the fact that we want to have the fruit but not work hard for it? Everybody talks about Bill Gates, Ambanis, Steve Jobs and talk about what they have achieved, Lot of people talk about Einstein, Abraham Lincoln and others who were school drop outs and they achieved the peak in their respective careers – but I wonder how many of us can actually go through the grind they have gone through, the rejection they faced from the society and faced it bravely, the odds they had to overcome to achieve what they did… The stories are numerous from all spheres of life but then how do we address all of them here. On the other hand, when it comes to difficulties, we always look at ourselves and the troubles which we face every day and from our perspective those are the biggest problems anybody can have. At this time, we “believe” that whatever trouble the others have are manageable. We always get overwhelmed with our own problems and get so involved that we ignore the rest. But the fact is that when we look at other people, you might see a different picture from what you perceive. Having said that, every individual, family, have their own sets of challenges / problems which they face on a daily basis and we as outsiders cannot fathom the extent of others problems. Both these situations can lead to dissatisfaction with life, economic status, social status, and imbalance within the society. To get a semblance of equality within the society, we should try to look at situations empathetically, define our priorities (which work for us), work towards those priorities – to do that we need to look beyond ourselves, look beyond our problems, our achievements and understand the environment we live in, understand the need of the situation and face the situation head-on rather than shy away from it. Having an Ostrich attitude will complicate the matter even more.